My Easter with Christians, Jews and Muslims

Easter Bonnet

We celebrated Easter this year with our community of Christian and Jewish interfaith families. Our minister started off by pointing out that Easter is not in the Bible, and that our holiday traditions make reference to ancient goddesses, and the fertility rites of spring. She then gathered the children together and talked to them about the Buddhist metaphor of a cup of tea representing the comforting memories of life after the tea bag (or body) is gone. She’s not your typical minister.

Next, our rabbi gave an adult sermon about the themes of intimacy, transcendence and unity in the story of the resurrection of Jesus. Somehow, the idea of life beyond death, of renewal and regeneration, seemed completely universal to me as he spoke. As a Jew, I do not feel I need to believe in a messiah or a personal savior in order to celebrate these Easter messages. Our rabbi spent his career at Georgetown, knows his gospels, and has been called a “closet Catholic” by Catholic friends. And yet, he’s an erudite, dedicated and deeply spiritual Jew. He’s not your typical rabbi.

In addition to the Lord of the Dance and older traditional Easter hymns, we sang Bob Marley’s One Love. Then, we had a pancake breakfast that included matzoh brei (matzoh fried in eggs) for those of us who aren’t eating leavening until the end of Passover. This type of radical culinary inclusion is the norm in an interfaith families community. And it is part of what makes this community so comfortable, and so precious, for me.

After our Easter morning with Christians and Jews, I made a quick change out of my pastel dress and Easter bonnet and into a bold print Senegalese outfit, in order to join a community of Catholics and Muslims for our second Easter event of the day, a gathering of the local Catholic Senegalese association. We had the great fortune to be invited to this event by two Senegalese-American friends, one Catholic and one Muslim, who are cousins from an interfaith family, and who know that my husband and I crave Senegalese food and company ever since our years in Dakar. Intermarriage between Muslims and Catholics is not uncommon in Senegal. In fact, both of the Muslim Presidents of Senegal I interviewed as a journalist (Abdou Diouf and Abdoulaye Wade) had Catholic wives.

What struck me at this Easter feast, and touched me deeply, was the way the Catholics made sure to accommodate the dietary restrictions of Muslim family members and friends. All of the main dishes featured mutton or chicken, rather than ham, and the one dish with pork in it was carefully labelled. Our Muslim friend reminded us how people of all religions in Senegal share another local culinary tradition on Good Friday: ngalax, a dessert made from peanut butter, vanilla, sugar, and the fruit of the baobab tree, served with raisins over millet couscous. Typically, Catholics make the dish on Good Friday and deliver it to neighbors, friends and family of all religions, just as Muslims in Senegal share the mutton from the Tabaski (or Eid al-Adha) feast with neighbors of all religions.

I often use the Passover dish of charoset as a metaphor for my interfaith family: a mix of nuts, fruits, spices and wine, with flavors melding over time. Now I have a sweet new metaphor: the nuts and fruits and grain of ngalax, bonding interfaith families, neighborhoods, and countries.

Susan Katz Miller is an interfaith families speaker, consultant, and coach, and author of Being Both: Embracing Two Religions in One Interfaith Family (2015), and The Interfaith Family Journal (2019). Follow her on twitter @susankatzmiller.

Matzoh, Peeps, Jelly Beans: Interfaith Passover and Easter Leftovers

Many of us who celebrate both Passover and Easter just spent the last few weeks explaining, again and again, how we do not mix the two holidays together, but instead give them each separate space and specific depth and traditional respect. Passover is Jewish. Easter is Christian. Historically, they are connected, but I do not advocate combining them, any more than I advocate celebrating Chrismukkah.

All of this is serious, weighty, ponderous even. And yet, both Passover and Easter should be joyous: spring flowers, liberation, renewal.  And we cannot, and perhaps should not, completely suppress the lightness and even humor of the reality of our intertwined interfaith lives, and the inevitable moments of comic overlap and cross-fertilization.

So now that  the season of solemn and authentic celebration of both holidays is coming to a close, I am letting my wacky, transgressive interfaith side show with some creative uses for leftover matzoh and Easter candy.

Peep S’mores. This original Peep and Matzoh S’more video (above), has inspired much commentary and even sequels.  The helium-addled rendition of “Dayeinu” on the soundtrack as the Peep inflates in the microwave provides a dark, campy twist, somewhere between terrifying and hilarious. Some people will actually eat Peep S’mores: the blandness of matzoh nicely balances the tooth-ache sweetness of chocolate and marshmallow. My favorite use for leftover Peeps (with no reference to Passover) is the equally bizarre Rice Krispies Treats with Floating Peep Heads. And hey, it’s gluten free!

Matzoh House. Meanwhile, thanks to my friend Geneva, a great cook and designer and interfaith parent, for sending this link to gingerbread-style houses made with matzoh and jelly beans. As with gingerbread houses, these are perfect for using up candy (and matzoh) without actually having to consume it. And check out some sillier uses for leftover matzoh (with no reference to Easter candy) in this youtube song. Enjoy!

Susan Katz Miller’s book, Being Both: Embracing Two Religions in One Interfaith Family is available now in hardcover, paperback and eBook from Beacon Press.